What are some things that you are looking for in a future spouse? Are there things on your list that are "must haves"? What biblical characteristics are you looking for? In last week's post I gave some examples of relationships. Some things that could happen if you jump ahead of God, or if you wait patiently for Him. In a recent study that I have been doing, it was suggested that I make a list of all the qualities that I am looking for in my future spouse. They called them convictions. With my list they asked me to put a scripture to back up each entry... I encourage you to do the same. Below is part of my list(I did not list them in any particular order):
1. Puts the needs of others ahead of his own. (Philippians 2:3-4)
2. Rejoices in his relationship with Christ. (John 15:11)
3. Refuses to jump ahead of God's timing. (Psalms 37:7)
4. Seeks to meet practical needs of others. (Ephesians 4:32)
5. Stands for what is right and hates anything contrary to God and His character. (Romans 2:9-10)
6. Follows through on his God-given responsibilities, uses his talents for God's glory, and isn't after fame (or doesn't take his talents for granted). (1 Corinthians 4:2)
7. Understands the importance of feelings and emotions. (Colossians 3:12)
8. Flees temptations to compromise. (Self-control) (Proverbs 25:28)
9. Spirit-controlled Christian. (Ephesians 5:18)
10. Loves the Lord with all his heart, soul, mind, and strength... (Mark 12:30)
11. Understands how to 100% rely on Jesus. Would never take his blessings for granted (aka would never stop thanking God/giving God the glory for them.) (Philippians 4:13)
12. Man of vision who follows through. (Romans 10:14)
13. Sensitive spirit; in tune to others needs. (Galatians 6:2)
14. Understands the awesome responsibility of a husband to his wife. (Ephesians 5:25-31)
15. Teachable and able to disciple others. (Matthew 28:19-20)
16. Man of prayer. (Colossians 4:2)
17. Desires to have and raise children according to God's Word and bring Him glory. (Proverbs. 22:6)
18. Slow to anger; abounding in love. (James 1:19-20)
19. Doesn't argue (no strife). (Proverbs 20:3)
20. Keeps a job; hard worker. (1 Timothy 5:8)
And the list goes on, but I think you get the idea. If you would like to hear the rest of my list let me know. :) As you can see. I want my man to be one who follows after the Lord in everything he does. That description pretty much sums up my entire list! If he follows God, and strives to do what the Bible says, then he will have the qualities I listed above! What are some other qualities that you can think of? If you have some that I didn't list, I would love to hear them! Maybe I would like to add them to my list!!
Blessings!
~ S*
Showing posts with label Prince Charming. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Prince Charming. Show all posts
Monday, February 28, 2011
Wednesday, August 4, 2010
"In my own little corner...
...in my own little chair, I can be whatever I want to be..."
This morning I had the house all to myself, so I did what I love to do. Stayed in bed until 12:30! :) I was awake though, around nine. After reading my Bible, praying, and doing some of my RHEMA Bible Correspondence course, I did something really fun... Daydream...
I wrote a story with my imagination. In a small town in Indiana, there was an eight year old girl who befriended the new boy, who just moved into town during the middle of the school year. They were soon best friends, and continued to be best friends through their senior year of high school. The girl (we'll call her Lindsay) fell in love with the boy (Jason) while they were in 8th grade. However, she never told Jason, for fear that it would ruin their friendship. Jason loves football, and he played starting quarter back throughout high school. He got a full scholarship to Ohio State to play football. On graduation day, after spending the last few days of school with Lindsay, he decided he was falling in love with her. As the summer progressed, he and Lindsay were trying to enjoy, what was possibly their last, summer together. Upon the last week of his summer at home, Jason finally told Lindsey that he had fallen for her...
*sigh* There's more, but you get the idea. ;) Do any of you spend time imagining how you will meet Prince Charming? I have thought of many different ways I could meet my future spouse! :D Have you ever sat there imagining a fictional love story? I would love to hear about them! I have often made up stories that involve a trial where, through prayer and love, God brings the characters out of it! Many cool possibilities when imagining your own story. (And you don't need to remember a book!) :D
~ S*
This morning I had the house all to myself, so I did what I love to do. Stayed in bed until 12:30! :) I was awake though, around nine. After reading my Bible, praying, and doing some of my RHEMA Bible Correspondence course, I did something really fun... Daydream...
I wrote a story with my imagination. In a small town in Indiana, there was an eight year old girl who befriended the new boy, who just moved into town during the middle of the school year. They were soon best friends, and continued to be best friends through their senior year of high school. The girl (we'll call her Lindsay) fell in love with the boy (Jason) while they were in 8th grade. However, she never told Jason, for fear that it would ruin their friendship. Jason loves football, and he played starting quarter back throughout high school. He got a full scholarship to Ohio State to play football. On graduation day, after spending the last few days of school with Lindsay, he decided he was falling in love with her. As the summer progressed, he and Lindsay were trying to enjoy, what was possibly their last, summer together. Upon the last week of his summer at home, Jason finally told Lindsey that he had fallen for her...
*sigh* There's more, but you get the idea. ;) Do any of you spend time imagining how you will meet Prince Charming? I have thought of many different ways I could meet my future spouse! :D Have you ever sat there imagining a fictional love story? I would love to hear about them! I have often made up stories that involve a trial where, through prayer and love, God brings the characters out of it! Many cool possibilities when imagining your own story. (And you don't need to remember a book!) :D
~ S*
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
Four Days in a Row!!!
I can hardly believe I have done this (made a new post) four days in a row! I don't usually do that. (As you probably already know) Today has been a bit busy for me, so not much guys stuff on my mind. It will probably work its way in about 10 o'clock... :) *sigh*
Little story for you all... Just so you know I am 21... I have never had a boyfriend, been on a date, kissed a guy, and to be completely honest I don't even know a guy that I would marry... (At least I don't think I do...) But... This does not mean that I have never been asked out by a guy before...
A co-worker of mine wanted to introduce me to her son (who, if I remember correctly, is a year older than me). The idea intrigued me, so I kinda made the mistake of saying I might be interested. So a few weeks later, I was training a new associate, and my supervisor was at the register behind me...
*Bunny trail... I am a blusher. I tend to blush a lot. It doesn't take much to make me blush. And I can usually tell when I am blushing. My entire cheeks turn red (from the apple all the way down to my jaw line.) I can usually feel them grow hot. Sometimes when I am really uncomfortable/embarrassed I can feel the blush all the way through the tips of my ears... *
Not so good: Okay, so my co-worker told me earlier that day that her son might show up (so at least I had a little heads up.) She then informed me (for the first time) that he was adopted, and he wasn't originally from America... (more on that another day) And he didn't have the same beliefs that I do (different denomination entirely). So... Later while I am training someone and my supervisor is right behind me, she walks up with him. (For the sake of this blog I will call him Steve.) Right in front of my supervisor and training buddy!!! Steve introduced himself, and I shook his hand. (I'm trying to be polite, and OH MAN I don't think I have been so uncomfortable ever!!! Talk about blushing!) His mom then left us. So, he then asks me if we could "hang out" sometime. PANIC!!! I was freaking out in my mind, my heart was going a thousand miles a minute... What was I going to do??? I wasn't interested at all... Then I remembered something that my family and I had talked about, but hadn't officially decided to do (I got the idea at the purity conference I mentioned yesterday.)... I said, "Well, you would have to ask my dad about that first." Steve kinda chuckled and obviously thought I was joking. (keep in mind my supervisor and trainee are standing right there watching all of this unfold...) I said, "No, really, I am serious, I can give you his number if you want." Talk about surprise, I think he was trying to keep from panicking himself. So then he said okay what is it (while holding his cell phone out ready to put the number in his phone book.)? I gave it to him, we said a tiny bit more, and then he left. (Whew! Talk about relief)
After he left my supervisor and trainee both talked to me about it for the next hour. They said we were wearing the same color and style shirts, etc... Then my supervisor asked me if I really thought he would call. I told her I had no idea; she, however, said he would. On my next break I called my house and told my parents what happened (just in case he would call)...
He never did call... I befriended him on Myspace at one point and pretty much told him I wasn't interested in anything but a friendship. And he never tried to pursue that.
Good things: Well, now I have business cards with my dad's sir name and phone number. I carry them with me everywhere. I NEVER want to get caught in that panic again. My dad and I have now discussed things a little more; we have an idea what we would do if there was a guy (I was actually interested in) going to call him. I survived the experience, and I must admit, it did feel good to know that a guy could possibly be interested in me. I learned later that he thought I was beautiful! (How sweet is that!!) Also, my supervisor (along with lots of other people I work with) watch me. That day my supervisor learned a few things about me. Such as, I have a good relationship with my dad, I listen to my dad, I value his opinion, etc... I think my supervisor is interested in knowing how my story will end. "Are Susan's standards too high, is it possible to have a first kiss wedding, etc..." I can use this experience as part of my example to people I work with (and maybe even others like you).
What I should have done: I could have probably prevented the situation if I would have taken the time to get to know about him through his mom before ever encouraging her to hook us up. I totally just got all googoo "maybe I will finally meet my Prince Charming" and lost all common sense. If I would have learned that he didn't really even follow his parent's churches/religion, and other aspects about him, I could have informed his mom that I didn't want to be unequally yoked with my husband. And I was (and still am not) interested in wasting my time on a relationship that I know won't go anywhere.
Have you ever had an experience like this? How did you handle it? Do you like the idea of having a business card in your pocket? Do you have any ideas or suggestions of things I could/should have done? What else could I take from this experience?
~ S*
Little story for you all... Just so you know I am 21... I have never had a boyfriend, been on a date, kissed a guy, and to be completely honest I don't even know a guy that I would marry... (At least I don't think I do...) But... This does not mean that I have never been asked out by a guy before...
A co-worker of mine wanted to introduce me to her son (who, if I remember correctly, is a year older than me). The idea intrigued me, so I kinda made the mistake of saying I might be interested. So a few weeks later, I was training a new associate, and my supervisor was at the register behind me...
*Bunny trail... I am a blusher. I tend to blush a lot. It doesn't take much to make me blush. And I can usually tell when I am blushing. My entire cheeks turn red (from the apple all the way down to my jaw line.) I can usually feel them grow hot. Sometimes when I am really uncomfortable/embarrassed I can feel the blush all the way through the tips of my ears... *
Not so good: Okay, so my co-worker told me earlier that day that her son might show up (so at least I had a little heads up.) She then informed me (for the first time) that he was adopted, and he wasn't originally from America... (more on that another day) And he didn't have the same beliefs that I do (different denomination entirely). So... Later while I am training someone and my supervisor is right behind me, she walks up with him. (For the sake of this blog I will call him Steve.) Right in front of my supervisor and training buddy!!! Steve introduced himself, and I shook his hand. (I'm trying to be polite, and OH MAN I don't think I have been so uncomfortable ever!!! Talk about blushing!) His mom then left us. So, he then asks me if we could "hang out" sometime. PANIC!!! I was freaking out in my mind, my heart was going a thousand miles a minute... What was I going to do??? I wasn't interested at all... Then I remembered something that my family and I had talked about, but hadn't officially decided to do (I got the idea at the purity conference I mentioned yesterday.)... I said, "Well, you would have to ask my dad about that first." Steve kinda chuckled and obviously thought I was joking. (keep in mind my supervisor and trainee are standing right there watching all of this unfold...) I said, "No, really, I am serious, I can give you his number if you want." Talk about surprise, I think he was trying to keep from panicking himself. So then he said okay what is it (while holding his cell phone out ready to put the number in his phone book.)? I gave it to him, we said a tiny bit more, and then he left. (Whew! Talk about relief)
After he left my supervisor and trainee both talked to me about it for the next hour. They said we were wearing the same color and style shirts, etc... Then my supervisor asked me if I really thought he would call. I told her I had no idea; she, however, said he would. On my next break I called my house and told my parents what happened (just in case he would call)...
He never did call... I befriended him on Myspace at one point and pretty much told him I wasn't interested in anything but a friendship. And he never tried to pursue that.
Good things: Well, now I have business cards with my dad's sir name and phone number. I carry them with me everywhere. I NEVER want to get caught in that panic again. My dad and I have now discussed things a little more; we have an idea what we would do if there was a guy (I was actually interested in) going to call him. I survived the experience, and I must admit, it did feel good to know that a guy could possibly be interested in me. I learned later that he thought I was beautiful! (How sweet is that!!) Also, my supervisor (along with lots of other people I work with) watch me. That day my supervisor learned a few things about me. Such as, I have a good relationship with my dad, I listen to my dad, I value his opinion, etc... I think my supervisor is interested in knowing how my story will end. "Are Susan's standards too high, is it possible to have a first kiss wedding, etc..." I can use this experience as part of my example to people I work with (and maybe even others like you).
What I should have done: I could have probably prevented the situation if I would have taken the time to get to know about him through his mom before ever encouraging her to hook us up. I totally just got all googoo "maybe I will finally meet my Prince Charming" and lost all common sense. If I would have learned that he didn't really even follow his parent's churches/religion, and other aspects about him, I could have informed his mom that I didn't want to be unequally yoked with my husband. And I was (and still am not) interested in wasting my time on a relationship that I know won't go anywhere.
Have you ever had an experience like this? How did you handle it? Do you like the idea of having a business card in your pocket? Do you have any ideas or suggestions of things I could/should have done? What else could I take from this experience?
~ S*
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