What are some things that you are looking for in a future spouse? Are there things on your list that are "must haves"? What biblical characteristics are you looking for? In last week's post I gave some examples of relationships. Some things that could happen if you jump ahead of God, or if you wait patiently for Him. In a recent study that I have been doing, it was suggested that I make a list of all the qualities that I am looking for in my future spouse. They called them convictions. With my list they asked me to put a scripture to back up each entry... I encourage you to do the same. Below is part of my list(I did not list them in any particular order):
1. Puts the needs of others ahead of his own. (Philippians 2:3-4)
2. Rejoices in his relationship with Christ. (John 15:11)
3. Refuses to jump ahead of God's timing. (Psalms 37:7)
4. Seeks to meet practical needs of others. (Ephesians 4:32)
5. Stands for what is right and hates anything contrary to God and His character. (Romans 2:9-10)
6. Follows through on his God-given responsibilities, uses his talents for God's glory, and isn't after fame (or doesn't take his talents for granted). (1 Corinthians 4:2)
7. Understands the importance of feelings and emotions. (Colossians 3:12)
8. Flees temptations to compromise. (Self-control) (Proverbs 25:28)
9. Spirit-controlled Christian. (Ephesians 5:18)
10. Loves the Lord with all his heart, soul, mind, and strength... (Mark 12:30)
11. Understands how to 100% rely on Jesus. Would never take his blessings for granted (aka would never stop thanking God/giving God the glory for them.) (Philippians 4:13)
12. Man of vision who follows through. (Romans 10:14)
13. Sensitive spirit; in tune to others needs. (Galatians 6:2)
14. Understands the awesome responsibility of a husband to his wife. (Ephesians 5:25-31)
15. Teachable and able to disciple others. (Matthew 28:19-20)
16. Man of prayer. (Colossians 4:2)
17. Desires to have and raise children according to God's Word and bring Him glory. (Proverbs. 22:6)
18. Slow to anger; abounding in love. (James 1:19-20)
19. Doesn't argue (no strife). (Proverbs 20:3)
20. Keeps a job; hard worker. (1 Timothy 5:8)
And the list goes on, but I think you get the idea. If you would like to hear the rest of my list let me know. :) As you can see. I want my man to be one who follows after the Lord in everything he does. That description pretty much sums up my entire list! If he follows God, and strives to do what the Bible says, then he will have the qualities I listed above! What are some other qualities that you can think of? If you have some that I didn't list, I would love to hear them! Maybe I would like to add them to my list!!
Blessings!
~ S*
Showing posts with label Future. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Future. Show all posts
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Sunday, August 22, 2010
Lists!!
I am a list person. I do things so much more efficiently if I have made a list of all the things that I need to accomplish.
A couple days ago, while praying and studying in my morning quiet time, I decided to make a list of all the things I could be thinking about/doing in preparation for my future.
As much as I am looking forward to marriage, moving out, etc. I think it will be a MAJOR wake up call. I have taken so many things for granted. My parents have provided lots of things for me up to this point in my life, so what will I truly be getting myself into when I am out "on my own"?
Here are a few things on my list:
1. Make a list of expenses in running my own home (try to get accurate dollar amounts)
2. Make a schedule/list of things/responsibilities I will have when I am in charge of my own home.
3. Make a list of the necessary items "we" (we being my husband and I *sigh*) will need to start out in a new home.
4. a. Create a budget with the above things I have learned.
4. b. What would it be like to add a child to the mix?
5. Grocery list! What will I need to be shopping and clipping coupons for?
6. Wedding list and budget!! :) (I, of course, had to throw something fun into this new reality)
And I could go on, but I think you get the idea. Whoa! MAJOR wake up call. These are things I had not given even the slightest thought to in the past. What in the world am I going to do when I have a husband of my own to take care of? What about KIDS!?! I personally plan on waiting a few years to add them, but you never know... :)
I have always wanted to begin preparing myself for wife-hood... (is that a word?) by doing things NOW. However, I am slowly realizing I am far from being prepared! What are you doing to prepare for your future? Are you one to "cross that bridge when you get to it"? Or are you a list maker/planner like me? What are some other things that I should prepare for that are not on my list? What other things can I be doing to honor my spouse right here right now?
One thing I have done (or should I say do quite often) is pray for my future husband! And I am hoping that he is doing the same thing for me. Am I doing my job at answering those prayers? Am I becoming the woman that I think he would want? Some of the things on my "list" for a future husband could be on his "list" for a future wife! Am I following my own list of desires in a mate and becoming who/what I expect him to be? We shall see soon enough, but I want to be as ready as I can be for that special someone when he comes into my life!
~ S*
A couple days ago, while praying and studying in my morning quiet time, I decided to make a list of all the things I could be thinking about/doing in preparation for my future.
As much as I am looking forward to marriage, moving out, etc. I think it will be a MAJOR wake up call. I have taken so many things for granted. My parents have provided lots of things for me up to this point in my life, so what will I truly be getting myself into when I am out "on my own"?
Here are a few things on my list:
1. Make a list of expenses in running my own home (try to get accurate dollar amounts)
2. Make a schedule/list of things/responsibilities I will have when I am in charge of my own home.
3. Make a list of the necessary items "we" (we being my husband and I *sigh*) will need to start out in a new home.
4. a. Create a budget with the above things I have learned.
4. b. What would it be like to add a child to the mix?
5. Grocery list! What will I need to be shopping and clipping coupons for?
6. Wedding list and budget!! :) (I, of course, had to throw something fun into this new reality)
And I could go on, but I think you get the idea. Whoa! MAJOR wake up call. These are things I had not given even the slightest thought to in the past. What in the world am I going to do when I have a husband of my own to take care of? What about KIDS!?! I personally plan on waiting a few years to add them, but you never know... :)
I have always wanted to begin preparing myself for wife-hood... (is that a word?) by doing things NOW. However, I am slowly realizing I am far from being prepared! What are you doing to prepare for your future? Are you one to "cross that bridge when you get to it"? Or are you a list maker/planner like me? What are some other things that I should prepare for that are not on my list? What other things can I be doing to honor my spouse right here right now?
One thing I have done (or should I say do quite often) is pray for my future husband! And I am hoping that he is doing the same thing for me. Am I doing my job at answering those prayers? Am I becoming the woman that I think he would want? Some of the things on my "list" for a future husband could be on his "list" for a future wife! Am I following my own list of desires in a mate and becoming who/what I expect him to be? We shall see soon enough, but I want to be as ready as I can be for that special someone when he comes into my life!
~ S*
Wednesday, August 4, 2010
"In my own little corner...
...in my own little chair, I can be whatever I want to be..."
This morning I had the house all to myself, so I did what I love to do. Stayed in bed until 12:30! :) I was awake though, around nine. After reading my Bible, praying, and doing some of my RHEMA Bible Correspondence course, I did something really fun... Daydream...
I wrote a story with my imagination. In a small town in Indiana, there was an eight year old girl who befriended the new boy, who just moved into town during the middle of the school year. They were soon best friends, and continued to be best friends through their senior year of high school. The girl (we'll call her Lindsay) fell in love with the boy (Jason) while they were in 8th grade. However, she never told Jason, for fear that it would ruin their friendship. Jason loves football, and he played starting quarter back throughout high school. He got a full scholarship to Ohio State to play football. On graduation day, after spending the last few days of school with Lindsay, he decided he was falling in love with her. As the summer progressed, he and Lindsay were trying to enjoy, what was possibly their last, summer together. Upon the last week of his summer at home, Jason finally told Lindsey that he had fallen for her...
*sigh* There's more, but you get the idea. ;) Do any of you spend time imagining how you will meet Prince Charming? I have thought of many different ways I could meet my future spouse! :D Have you ever sat there imagining a fictional love story? I would love to hear about them! I have often made up stories that involve a trial where, through prayer and love, God brings the characters out of it! Many cool possibilities when imagining your own story. (And you don't need to remember a book!) :D
~ S*
This morning I had the house all to myself, so I did what I love to do. Stayed in bed until 12:30! :) I was awake though, around nine. After reading my Bible, praying, and doing some of my RHEMA Bible Correspondence course, I did something really fun... Daydream...
I wrote a story with my imagination. In a small town in Indiana, there was an eight year old girl who befriended the new boy, who just moved into town during the middle of the school year. They were soon best friends, and continued to be best friends through their senior year of high school. The girl (we'll call her Lindsay) fell in love with the boy (Jason) while they were in 8th grade. However, she never told Jason, for fear that it would ruin their friendship. Jason loves football, and he played starting quarter back throughout high school. He got a full scholarship to Ohio State to play football. On graduation day, after spending the last few days of school with Lindsay, he decided he was falling in love with her. As the summer progressed, he and Lindsay were trying to enjoy, what was possibly their last, summer together. Upon the last week of his summer at home, Jason finally told Lindsey that he had fallen for her...
*sigh* There's more, but you get the idea. ;) Do any of you spend time imagining how you will meet Prince Charming? I have thought of many different ways I could meet my future spouse! :D Have you ever sat there imagining a fictional love story? I would love to hear about them! I have often made up stories that involve a trial where, through prayer and love, God brings the characters out of it! Many cool possibilities when imagining your own story. (And you don't need to remember a book!) :D
~ S*
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Blogging Idea... A Change in Plans...
Since there is only one subject that really consumes my mind constantly, I have decided to try a new idea/plan for my blog. Instead of talking about what goes on in my everyday (boring) life, I would like to share my thoughts, struggles, and victories that I face as an everyday young woman, who is trying to follow God's plan for her life. The first few posts will be a little bit of background on my feelings about guys, marriage, my future, thoughts, college, work, God's plan for me, etc... My everyday struggles will be expressed about these subjects. All in all, I am trying to be an encouragement to other girls who may be struggling with the same thoughts and feelings I have. I would love to get your feedback as well, so feel free to leave comments, suggestions, or your own struggles.
So let's begin... At church, Bible study groups, or church camps you always hear testimonies about how God significantly changed someone's life. How He turned it completely around from the way it was before that person got saved. I have always felt a little confused about my own testimony. What is my testimony? I didn't have that dramatic life changing experience like lots of other people have. I grew up in a home where my parents were saved, and they taught me about God since day one. We pray together, worship God together, share all of our struggles with each other. I have never really struggled with my relationship with God. I know that I am born again, that my name is written in the Lamb's Book of Life, that Jesus died on the cross for me, and He rose again so I could live forever in heaven with him. That is my testimony... Not that exciting really. But I am glad that I have not had the struggles that others have experienced. I am so thankful for my family. I have parent's that love me, hug and kiss me, tell me "I love you", listen when I have something important I need to discuss or share. They are always there for me, and I am so thankful for that. I have an amazing sister who I never truly fight with. We can have our disagreements, but we have never actually been in a big argument. We support each other, and can talk to each other about anything and everything. Pretty Awesome* now that I really think about it.
Okay, now that you know a little about my background let me explain a couple more things. First, I have been interested in marriage, cute boys, hugs, kisses, the whole nine yards since I was ten or younger... Now that I am 21 my desire for the latter has only grown more and more with each passing day; however, my standards, and methods in which I plan to find my husband have changed dramatically as I have grown and learned more about God and His plan for marriage and singleness. Secondly, in the last few years, I have thought that my testimony may be how I handle my singleness, and eventually my marriage story! But this does not mean that I do not have the everyday struggles of an average 21 year old young woman. Through this blog I would like to share my thoughts and struggles about certain subjects that are dear to my heart. I am praying that God will use this blog as a blessing for not only myself, but for others as well.
Throughout the weeks, I will share some more of my background on certain subjects that I may have already told some of my readers. However, I pray that my own struggles and discoveries can help you, my readers, as you grow in your relationship with the Lord and mature into a young woman of God. (A Proverbs 31 Woman) My goal with this blog is to be a blessing to others by sharing my stories, so maybe you can learn from my mistakes and avoid certain things that I have learned the hard way. Or if I have discovered something that works very well, I would love to share it with you.
I am not the most eloquent speaker/writer, but I pray that this blog will be God inspiring for everyone. Thank you for joining me on this adventure; I look forward to hearing from you!
~ S*
* Awesome is a word with special meaning for me. Awesome for me is something only God can be. It is a word I only use when talking about how amazing my Savior is or what He has done for me. Awesome aka God amazing!
So let's begin... At church, Bible study groups, or church camps you always hear testimonies about how God significantly changed someone's life. How He turned it completely around from the way it was before that person got saved. I have always felt a little confused about my own testimony. What is my testimony? I didn't have that dramatic life changing experience like lots of other people have. I grew up in a home where my parents were saved, and they taught me about God since day one. We pray together, worship God together, share all of our struggles with each other. I have never really struggled with my relationship with God. I know that I am born again, that my name is written in the Lamb's Book of Life, that Jesus died on the cross for me, and He rose again so I could live forever in heaven with him. That is my testimony... Not that exciting really. But I am glad that I have not had the struggles that others have experienced. I am so thankful for my family. I have parent's that love me, hug and kiss me, tell me "I love you", listen when I have something important I need to discuss or share. They are always there for me, and I am so thankful for that. I have an amazing sister who I never truly fight with. We can have our disagreements, but we have never actually been in a big argument. We support each other, and can talk to each other about anything and everything. Pretty Awesome* now that I really think about it.
Okay, now that you know a little about my background let me explain a couple more things. First, I have been interested in marriage, cute boys, hugs, kisses, the whole nine yards since I was ten or younger... Now that I am 21 my desire for the latter has only grown more and more with each passing day; however, my standards, and methods in which I plan to find my husband have changed dramatically as I have grown and learned more about God and His plan for marriage and singleness. Secondly, in the last few years, I have thought that my testimony may be how I handle my singleness, and eventually my marriage story! But this does not mean that I do not have the everyday struggles of an average 21 year old young woman. Through this blog I would like to share my thoughts and struggles about certain subjects that are dear to my heart. I am praying that God will use this blog as a blessing for not only myself, but for others as well.
Throughout the weeks, I will share some more of my background on certain subjects that I may have already told some of my readers. However, I pray that my own struggles and discoveries can help you, my readers, as you grow in your relationship with the Lord and mature into a young woman of God. (A Proverbs 31 Woman) My goal with this blog is to be a blessing to others by sharing my stories, so maybe you can learn from my mistakes and avoid certain things that I have learned the hard way. Or if I have discovered something that works very well, I would love to share it with you.
I am not the most eloquent speaker/writer, but I pray that this blog will be God inspiring for everyone. Thank you for joining me on this adventure; I look forward to hearing from you!
~ S*
* Awesome is a word with special meaning for me. Awesome for me is something only God can be. It is a word I only use when talking about how amazing my Savior is or what He has done for me. Awesome aka God amazing!
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